Social media affects way too much these days…

I see numerous people posting articles on the top 10 things to find in your soul mate or the reasons you know you’ve found the right someone or even the best aspects your relationship should have if it should succeed.

You know what takes a successful relationship? You know how you know if your with the right someone.

There isn’t a specific answer, article, or list. There isn’t a specific quiz or some expert who says if you have all these qualities in your significant other you are sure to be happy forever and succeed.

Every relationship is different. Every man and woman is different and how they interact with each other is also different. You can’t base everything on these articles and quizzes and magazines and tips from your friends. No two people and no two relationships are the same.

Are some of these qualities great to find in your significant other? Of course! But it shouldn’t define your relationship; start it or end it; and it definitely shouldn’t be the basis for your future. Society these days base way too much emphasis on social media and a few people’s opinions.

Instead of wondering what these people think about how to find the perfect guy or girl maybe we should take a step back and see if the relationship we are in has some of these great qualities already we are overlooking.

My marriage is far from perfect and we are always working to better it. We fight, we laugh, we make each other angry.  But we love each other, care about each other, and have been through the best and the worst together. Sometimes we are selfish and sometimes we are selfless, but at the end of the day we try harder instead of giving up. We don’t look at a list posted on a website and say we only have two out of these ten thing so maybe we aren’t meant to be. We just work with what we’ve got and we strive everyday to be better, stronger, and love harder.


After all, I wouldn’t want to be on this journey with anyone else & I wouldn’t have it any other way.