I remember this was one of the biggest things I learned during my childhood and I always kept it in the back of my head.  I also remind my children of this same saying every day.  Do you want someone to be mean to you and bully you?  No?  Then don’t ever do it to another person.  Treat others how you want to be treated.  I think the world may need a refresher on this because it seems that instead of supporting each other and bringing each other up when we need it most we are quick to judge, place blame, and shame other people when we could easily find ourselves in the same situation.

When I signed up for Facebook and other social media outlets it was to keep in touch with people.  People who went to different colleges than myself, family who wasn’t close, etc.  I didn’t join Facebook to be judged, to be hated, or to be shamed.  Granted, I haven’t.  But in recent events, I have seen it happen more and more and it is absolutely disgusting.  I would love to know if you would say those same things if you weren’t sitting behind a computer screen and you were face to face with another person.  Would you still be a bully?  Would you still cast judgement and question every single adult decision that was made?  What if someone did that to you?  What if someone questioned every decision you made as an adult or a parent?  How would that make you feel?  What if someone sat behind a computer screen all day and just wrote terrible things about your life choices?  I highly doubt that is something you would want to experience.  It’s not that hard to be a decent human being.  If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.  I didn’t join social media to watch a bunch of grown adults bully other adults for things that have happened.   And sure, I could easily delete all my accounts and never read another comment, but why should I have to do that.  I can easily ignore the comments and I have many times, but you hear it everywhere.  It’s even on the news, other parents shaming these parents for x, y, and z.  It makes me sick that god forbid something happen to my children in an accident and the world chooses to tell me what an awful parent I am instead of supporting me in a time I would need it most.

Here is just a few examples:

  1. Chrissy Teagan and her husband went out to dinner (oh my gosh) when her daughter was just a few weeks old.  Guess what?  So did I!  My aunt came to visit and meet our newest addition and she told us to go out to eat and enjoy ourselves because we had the opportunity, so we did!  It wasn’t life ending, my child was completely fine, and those few hours I was gone, didn’t alter her life in any way shape or form.  I bet tons of new parents have done the same thing, but because a celebrity did it, we decide it’s an awful thing to do and they don’t care about the child.  Take a chill pill.
  2. The awful, terrible, and tragic story about the alligator who took the boy and dragged him into the water and he didn’t make it.  That could have happened to ANYONE. Literally, it could’ve happened to me or to you.  You don’t know, you weren’t there, so what gives you the right to judge that family.  You think they already don’t hate themselves enough for what happened?  You think that your harsh words about how you assume they are terrible parents who can’t make a good decision is something they need to hear right now?  What if it happened to you and the world was putting in their two cents about what terrible parents you were?  That could’ve happened to any of us.

Everyone has a right to their own opinion but does it always have to be a nasty and rude one.   Are you sure that you would never ever be put in a situation like that?  I could go on and on with the examples oh how instead of lifting each other up we are just bringing each other down.  The question is, if some completely terrible tragedy happened to you, what kind of comments and responses would you want to hear from the rest of the world?  Uplifting comments of support and sorrow because you just experienced one of the worst things that can ever happen to a person, or people telling you what a horrible and awful human being you are.  Last I checked, accidents happen and no one is perfect.  Unless you can assure yourself that you are the perfect parent and will never make a mistake in your life, I suggest you get off your high horse and start treating others how you would like to be treated.